Is Handsome Too Handsome?

I was looking out my kitchen window one morning and noticed a rather plain looking bird eating the berries on the bush outside.

It was a cardinal.

Is Handsome Too Handsome? | Romance Readers' Cafe'

I had to study it to figure out what it was because cardinals are red ALL over, aren’t they?

Is Handsome Too Handsome? | Romance Readers' Cafe'

The males are.

Maybe I should have paid more attention in science class. 😉

Anyway, that got me to thinking about other animals where the male is decked out more than the female.

Is Handsome Too Handsome? | Romance Readers' Cafe'

Is Handsome Too Handsome? | Romance Readers' Cafe'

Is Handsome Too Handsome? | Romance Readers' Cafe'

Why is this important? Well, I’m not really sure it is. But it represents a rabbit trail that we writers follow when we are creating.

Come to think of it though, this is actually relevant to me because the hero in my current WIP (work in progress) is very handsome. Strikingly so. Why? Because I saw a really good looking guy and then I had a thought process about what kinds of issues might befall someone who is so handsome. Arrogance? Too much confidence? Maybe not enough? My hero struggles with finding true love because people don’t look beyond his exterior. He has lots of people wanting to be his friend and women wanting to date him. But all because of his looks.

Poor guy.

Enter the one woman who is immune to his obvious charms…

And so begins that story.

It’s funny how seemingly random thoughts become the basis for romantic stories.

I’m turning the conversation over to you.

Can handsome be too handsome?

Have you ever been surprised by a flaw in a romantic hero?

What types of struggles do you think my hero would go through?

Loraine Nunley is an author and blogger who grew up near Detroit, Michigan and now lives just outside of Fort Worth, Texas. She is a member of ACFW and writes inspirational romance. In 2017, she was honored to be a finalist in the suspense category of the ACFW First Impressions contest.

Being a romantic at heart, Loraine often finds inspiration for her writing within her own marriage. She has been blessed to find her own real life romantic hero with her husband. Her writing career has included a self-help book about remarriage and a series of children’s books about military aircraft.

When not writing furiously and dreaming up stories, she can be found reading, adding books to her over flowing bookshelves, homeschooling her children, and enjoying time with her family.

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By |2018-04-15T19:24:45+00:00April 17th, 2018|Loraine Nunley|3 Comments

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  1. Austin Ryan April 18, 2018 at 4:55 pm - Reply

    I definitely think someone can be too handsome. Or maybe I’m just not attracted to super-attractive people. Regardless, I think personality matters so much more than looks. I know, they all say that, but honestly though? Haven’t we all met strikingly handsome people who turned out to have very unattractive opinions or habits? And people who weren’t attractive at first, but who became increasingly attractive the more they talked?

    I think it strikingly handsome comes with challenges.
    You might be less approachable and suffer from that.
    You might have people who are really only interested in being your friend/dating you because you’re handsome.
    You might have people who shy away from you like the plague (because, in the opinions of one girl I worked with, guys like that have way overblown egos).
    Maybe you would be the victim of all the attention, all the time, when you really only wanted to fade into the background.

    • Loraine Nunley April 19, 2018 at 9:45 pm - Reply

      Those are all really good Austin. I especially like your last idea of being a victim of a lot of attention. What if our hero is a major introvert? Maybe he hates attention.

      Hmm. I need to go back to my writing. I’ve got some more ideas flowing. Thanks Austin. 😉

  2. Austin Ryan April 20, 2018 at 3:00 pm - Reply

    Nice! Happy to spark your writer’s brain 🙂 I’m a major introvert, so I think the whole attention thing resonates with me. I love the attention of a couple of people, but a roomful? No thank you 🙂

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