Gorgeous eyes. A captivating smile. Carved muscles. Sounds like the perfect hero in a romantic novel, right? What about adding some boxes? No, I said boxes, not boxers—this is clean romance. 😉

Long ago I heard the idea that a woman’s brain is like spaghetti and a man’s brain is made of boxes. Females analyze, quickly rabbit trail, read into things, are perceptive, intuitive, make connections, plan ahead, and all at once with a healthy dose of passion and emotion. Males process. One. Box. At. A. Time.

However, the boxes make the man, because he has one labeled “Protect her” and another “Win her” and one called “Care for her.” Way in the corner there’s a dusty little box labeled “Surprise her with something nice for her birthday.” You usually have to remind him about that box.

I’ve gotten comments from friends on how it must be difficult to write from a male perspective. How does a spaghetti brain sculpt an appealing and realistic hero? Here are a few practices that’ve helped me:

  •  Tighten dialogue and internal thoughts. Whatever I’ve written in my first draft, I cut it in half. Then I omit fluffy, flowery words.
  •   Critiques are my best friend. I’ve gotten a fair share of comments from other writers: Would a guy really say/think this?
  •   Pay attention to real conversation between guys.

  •   Browse social media. The kids I taught in Sunday school—they’re now on Instagram. Instead of dwelling on how old I feel, I’ll highlight what a great resource this is.
  •   Consider how he experiences the world. Does he smell the designer candle burning on the mantle, or will his nose be drawn to whatever’s cooking in the kitchen?
  •   Consider what the hero notices about the heroine…not what she wants him to notice.

  •   Watch The Bachelorette. I should be embarrassed by this, but how can you not enjoy a bunch of dudes fighting over one girl? The manly competition and logic (or lack thereof) always intrigues me.
  •   When in doubt, ask my husband—he’s honest to a fault and a genius story builder.

Continuing my meet cute from last month’s post, here is an example of storytelling from the dude’s point of view.


Marcus slid his innebandy stick across the gym floor. The ball shot forward, sailed toward the goalpost and ricocheted off with a clang. A girl entered the side door in time to duck. The American came. Did she see him miss the goal? Not that it mattered. Nobody here to impress.

The opposing team chased down the ball, sticks clattering against the tile. She walked the edge of the gym, watching the game. The moment she’d entered the cafeteria in her hoodie and jogging shoes he’d pegged her for American.

A teammate yelled his name. The ball flew his direction but was intercepted before he could react. He needed to focus. But she still looked lost, like she had at lunch earlier that day. And when she’d followed him back to the dorm. Maybe he should take a break, give someone else a turn. He jogged to the sidelines and handed his stick to a classmate. When he glanced her direction, she smiled.

“Hey.” She walked toward him.

“Tjena. You going to play?”

“I’m not feeling great.” Her nose wrinkled. “Jetlag is kicking me.”

“It’s a very Swedish game.” He crossed his arms over his chest.

“I used to play street hockey in school.”

“You played on an innebandy team?”

“No, just third grade recess.” She grinned up at him.

“That does not count.”

“It totally counts. I was awesome at it too.”

So American. Thought they were the best in the world. Poor girl was up for a rough time in Sweden. Good thing he’d warned her.

A grin lit her face again. “Actually, the boys hated it when I played.”

“Because you were so awesome?”

“No, when I hit the ball, I’d swing my stick up in the air like a baseball bat. I may have smacked a few kids in the head.” She giggled. He tried to ignore the musical way it sounded. He should get back in the game.

She tilted her head to the side, her curls bouncing along for the ride. “Why does everyone keep shouting royal butt?”


“Just then, it sounded like that girl yelled royal butt.” She pointed across the gym.

“Bra jobbut. It means good job.” He repeated the Swedish again, enunciating slowly.

“Bra…your…butt?” Her eyes narrowed.

“Means good job.”

She threw her head back and laughed loud enough to be heard in Stockholm. “Bra is good.”

“That’s what I told you earlier today.” He shrugged.

“I thought you were so weird.”

“You are weird,” he said, trying to subdue his smile.


When I prepared to recount our meet cute, I asked my husband about his first impressions, hoping to hear a detailed account of what he thought, how he felt, the conversations he remembered. His answer:

“You looked hot in the blue jacket.”

“The puffy one that made me feel fat?”


Huh. Man brain—one box at a time.

What do you think about spaghetti versus boxes? What is your favorite aspect of a hero in a romantic novel?


By day, Kelly D. Scott is buried in Excel spreadsheets, which is why she must write.

She graduated from Texas A&M University with a BBA in Accounting and, almost ten years later, she completed her MS in Accounting at UT Dallas. She wrote her first manuscript in 2017 when a photo in People magazine sparked an idea. 130,000 words later, that book is parked safely under her bed.

Kelly resides in the Dallas area with her illustrator husband (whom she met on Eharmony) and her two boys. She has lived in Texas all of her life, except for two and a half years when she was a missionary in China and Thailand. Oh, and she did spend a summer as a missionary in Australia where she learned how to do the Tim Tam slam. When Kelly isn’t writing or lost in Excel, she enjoys reading, cooking, baking, watching football, and spending time with her family. She is a member of ACFW.